NARCISSCISM AND THE SCAPEGOAT IN THE FAMILY SYSTEM

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NARCISSISM  AND THE SCAPEGOAT IN THE FAMILY SYSTEM

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WHAT IS A NARC. AND HOW DO THEY BEHAVE?

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 -A person who is Narcissistic, or had the diagnosis of NPD, have a 

mental health condition in which people have an exaggerated 

sense of self or their own importance. They strive for attention

in all forms and they want ALL people to like them. People with

this disorder lack the ability to understand, and, care very little

about the feelings/wants/needs of others.


-WHAT IS A SCAPEGOAT in NARCISSTIC FAMILIES?

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   A scapegoat is a person or group that one typically blames for

"everything" within the family system.

 -the scapegoat is often blamed and shame for all family issues

 - Scapegoats are often used to play people against each other 

or to manipulate the child to do as you would have to them to do.

 - all anger is projected at/onto scapegoat.

- Scapegoats continually face the reality that this parent has

no regard for them as a person and often, all misplaces blame 

falls on this child.

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5 RIPPLE EFFECTS OF HAVING BEEN A SCAPEGOAT


1. TOXIC SHAME: toxic shame is shame that lasts for long lengths

of time is usually accompanied by childhood memories.


2.TRUST ISSUES: because of all the verbal abuse, these children

NEVER felt "emotionally safe." Often these children struggle

to trust other people. Sometimes, they struggle with accepting 

their own instincts.


3. RELATIONSHIP ISSUES: since the scapegoated child is only

tolerated, no more, by this parent. Due to their upbringing,

gaslighting, emotional, or physical abuse, these children often

have no sense as to what the word "love" does or does not mean.

Love can be withheld; restricted. In these relationships, love is 

conditional and transactional.


4. LOW SELF-ESTEEM: the combination of being shamed, being

made to feel one is not "good enough", verbal abuse, silent 

treatment, are sometimes ignored altogether. Many times, these

children feel an overall vulnerability of low self-esteem across and 

into their adult lives.

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