PROFILE OF A FEMALE WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY DISORDER

 

PROFILE OF A FEMALE WITH BORDERLINE PERSONALITY D/O

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-feelings of prevailing shame and guilt

-pride/huberus/wanting to feel important

-problems surrounding EGO/stable sense of self

-black and white thinking patterns

-"magical thinking"/fantastical thinking

-poor impulse control

-emotions are very REACTIONARY

-create and live in a sense of fantasy

-fantasies based on fear and or pain (physical pain)

-ALWAYS the VICTIM (even of themselves)

-pathological lying/prone to extreme exaggeration of stories

-will lie, about a multitude of things, if it will garner ATTENTION

-these individuals are often prone to PROJECTION; projecting

their feelings onto other; be it conscious or not

-unshakeable fear of abandonment

-exaggerate details/circumstances to paint themselves

as "victims" (ie, if someone accidentally ran into them, in the

mall, when re-telling the story, they might say, "at the mall, this

punk ass girl totally shoulder bumped me, trying to get me to

fight.

-flighty/unstable/insecure/prone to jealousy

-insecure attachment style from childhood

-always have to have CONTROL over THE NARRATIVE;

often will "get out in front of stories."

-stuck in the past/childhood emotionally

-unable to handle "stable partners" due to their need to

"creat chaos." Borderlines are very comfortable with their own

"comfortable chaos." When Borderlines become bored, they

will create REAL OR PERCEIVED "chaos."

-nothing ever good-enough; project this specific aspect

onto others

-prone to repetition-compulsion; doing something repeatedly

in the hopes of mastering a scenario and having it turn out

differently. Repeating the same destructive patterns,

repeatedly, making the same decisions over and over. Feeling

shame over behavior, and starting cycle all over again.

-have a strong sense/need for adoration/admiration

-they seek out pain, on some degree of a spectrum, conscious

or not

-self-destructive and often self-sabotaging their own life choices

- prone to anxiety shown outward (in anger)

-have a hot and cold personality style; a "come here, go away"

shifting rapidly, in emotion, from one side of the coin, to the

other

-many of their odd behaviors can be seen as masking any

possible wounds/traumas they feel are exposed

-usually have a temper and are quick to anger; this is where

their impulsivity can get them into trouble. Increasing the risk

that the individual you'd act out both impulsively, and violently.

-sexual promiscuity

-can take on the personalities and hobbies, passions, interests

of those that they are closest to

-are inauthentic people; they act more in a way that manages

the impression of "a good person"; even though their behavior

may indicate otherwise were the behavior known (ie, employee

stealing thousands in goods on their lunch break and getting away

with it).

-thrill-seeking/adrenaline seeking individuals

-dysfunction in all interpersonal relationships

-often defined by INTENSE personal relationships; they start

out hot and heavy, and end abruptly and coldly; by either party.

-SOMETIMES there can be a BDSM side of their sexual selves

-SOME Borderlines are prone to engaging in self-harm; typically

cutting one's self; superficially or SOMETIMES even deeper

requiring medical intervention.

-gaslighting; especially when it can work to their benefit in terms

of avoiding discussing difficult/confrontative subjects/topics

-has no respect for the boundaries, physical, or otherwise,

set, CLEARLY, by other people. THEY IMPOSE THEMSELVES;

and, they are comfortable making other people feel uncomfortable

-often times, are UNFAITHFUL in relationships

-will often, despite many times being the cheater, often will 

accuse others, without any proof or suspicion, of cheating.

-make difficult and unfair demands of other's time, money,

and generosity

-can hold a grudge for a very long time. They have long memories.

They do not forget. They do not forgive. Despite what she might

say to the contrary

-will go to extremes, at times, to make an impression/garner

attention

-ON THE WHOLE, cannot honestly accept criticism about

themselves

-often they lash out, emotionally, in an aggressive way,

when they are given criticism (or PERCEIVED criticism).

-will exploit sex for their own personal gain or self-esteem gain

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